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The Menu of Life

The Menu of Life. Life is likely not going to go as planned. Your life well, it does what it does and as much as you plan, things change.

As much as you are an excellent planner, setting out that trajectory, establishing those goals, implementing them one after another successively. As you are moving towards that goal with values in assessments all taking place, well life has other plans. You say, “I’ll do this and as a result, this will happen.” It doesn’t always go that way.

We’re all mature enough to know things don’t go our way, but here’s a way to reframe that experience. Planners can experience frustration when things don’t go the way they’ve been planned. There’s anxiety, fear, “It’s not supposed to go this way!” is the response. We could call that reaction immature but that’s not realistic, and a little naïve.

Reframe The Baking, Let’s Cook

Let’s reframe this let’s rethink of it in terms of food preparation. You see life is cooking, it’s not baking. Cooking you can fudge a little, change the ingredients. You can add a little here, take away something here, adding some pepper to it instead of whatever the recipe says.

One of the ways that you can see this in life is on a restaurant menu. You see the phrase. “Our take,” or “Our spin on a classic pasta dish.” Maybe a Pasta Primavera and our spin on it. That is cooking. You can change the bread of a clubhouse sandwich and still have a clubhouse sandwich.

Errors in Baking

Baking, leave out an ingredient or change one. Switch salt for sugar, they look the same but you don’t get the result you want. Everything is changing. So, life is not baking it’s about cooking it’s about being flexible. Can you change the ingredients can you change the cooking time if you want? Are you flexible enough? If you’re baking you’re not, you’re setting yourself up for rigidity and disappointment. Choose cooking to be flexible and enjoy that meal your cooking.

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Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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For The Win

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For the win is often swimming upstream. Swimming upstream is a metaphor for the difficult task. Something that is present and constantly pushing against us. The fact is that those things exist.

Philip K. Dick Had Something to Say

One of my favorite quotes is from the science fiction author Philip K. Dick and he said this. “Reality is that which when you stop believing in it doesn’t go away,” and that is what it’s like to swim upstream. All other aspects of the situation are thrown aside and you’re left with the current. That current often is the world and people, because the world and people do with their going to do. They have their agenda.

You could rail against ignorance, the unintelligence, the stupidity, or the bad choices. All the labels that you might use to disparage the world or people. To make them seem less than what your vision of the world or people should be. That is swimming upstream, it’s fighting. Fighting is sometimes called for but it’s the last resort. It’s the last extension of the will and fighting is expensive.

So how might we follow up on this and get a win? Well, without shirking responsibility we can keep a mindset that allows us to move forward. To swim up that stream without having to fight too much. All without having to declare everything and everybody around us stupid, or ignorant.

The Easy Win

Here’s the simple trick you can do, save an easy win in your day. If you’re outlining your day, and I hope that you are, you can find an easy win in there. Something that’s going to make you feel good when you pull that easy when the off. And when you do execute that easy win and take a moment and acknowledge that you had an easy win.

We all know that this win is contrived we set it up. Yet it still feels wonderful. It allows us to push forward with positive momentum into the next challenge. The swimming upstream, the reality that’s not going to go away.

It’s a simple trick satisfying when executed. When ignited you get to use that momentum for the win, stepping forward into the next challenge.

Here is a link from WikiLinks: 3 Ways To Win At Life

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