Cultivating a life, an excellent life. Are you a cultivating person or are you something other? Seeking change in your life or are you letting it pass by? Are you looking at the small things? The large things? The difference makers or the things on the margins that you can change for the better? Your goal of that change should be to live a better life and help others that are in your orbit live a better life through your acts.
Coach Says
One way to look at this is a coach I heard one time say, “If you’re not coaching it you’re allowing it to happen.”
Is the thing that’s happening that you’re not coaching a good thing? If it is a fine thing then you let it be. But there was a discerning eye placed on the thing, to decide if it fell into that category needed to be coached or not. I’m not going to suggest a way to do this.
To analyze this and make this change there are tons of materials out there. There are programs, books, apps, Pinterest, you can find all sorts of things that will help you. The choice is yours in discerning what you think needs to be changed in your life and how can be done.
So, the quick recommendation is to do an ad hoc, freewheeling analysis and ask a modest question or a version of it. “Is this a good thing?” “The best thing?” “Is this good for me and those around me?” if it’s good allow it, let it happen, if it needs improvement go to that end, make sure you address it.
Comfort and Regularity
As humans, we seek comfort and regularity. Rhythm and regularity are soothing and they are important. The regularity and rhythm of a bad thing, well that’s less than a positive act. And yes, we do less than positive acts. When you look at these acts you should couch them in terms of being a cultivated person.
The Cultivated Person, A Cultivated Life
When you look at things in the cultivated person manner, acts begin to take on a new flavor. Think about that cultivated person. That term implies that it’s not an instant change but change that takes place over time. Here’s another phrase that might help you see this, “Whatever you are not changing you are choosing.”
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KRIS WILDER
Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.
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