Be yourself is bad lazy advice. You know that question that you layout for people, “What should I do?” You know when you’re looking at possibly a date or a job interview or important moment. “What should I do?” You are seeking information. You are seeking counsel. “How can I make this moment better?”
Just Be Yourself
The question of what should I do without exception comes back with, “Just be yourself.” It comes from someone and it comes from somewhere but it always comes. In saying that here is what they mean. They are saying that they are lazy. Be yourself is not a thoughtful answer. It’s weak it is misguided and you will do poorly if you heed that bad lazy advice. See, you should be better than yourself. You should be what you want to be.
You should seek that ascendant self. Seek that higher self. The self that is more responsible to those around them and unto themselves. We are a cluster of emotions. A ball desires and a bucket of needs, that are upon examination rather ugly.
Take It Into Consideration
Pause for a moment. If you acted the way you want to act would you want to be around yourself? That’s an honest question. If you acted the way you wanted would you want to be around yourself? The answer is, “No.” The next time you get the lazy misguided answer of, “Just be yourself,” know that that person who gave you that advice is lazy or not qualified to give you advice. You should politely leave their company at least on this issue.
We will become better by not being ourselves. That sounds strange but think about it for a moment. We only become better, not being ourselves. Then we ingrain that higher behavior into ourselves until it becomes 1st nature. That’s a process that should never end.
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KRIS WILDER
Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.
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