The Menu of Life. Life is likely not going to go as planned. Your life well, it does what it does and as much as you plan, things change.
As much as you are an excellent planner, setting out that trajectory, establishing those goals, implementing them one after another successively. As you are moving towards that goal with values in assessments all taking place, well life has other plans. You say, “I’ll do this and as a result, this will happen.” It doesn’t always go that way.
We’re all mature enough to know things don’t go our way, but here’s a way to reframe that experience. Planners can experience frustration when things don’t go the way they’ve been planned. There’s anxiety, fear, “It’s not supposed to go this way!” is the response. We could call that reaction immature but that’s not realistic, and a little naïve.
Reframe The Baking, Let’s Cook
Let’s reframe this let’s rethink of it in terms of food preparation. You see life is cooking, it’s not baking. Cooking you can fudge a little, change the ingredients. You can add a little here, take away something here, adding some pepper to it instead of whatever the recipe says.
One of the ways that you can see this in life is on a restaurant menu. You see the phrase. “Our take,” or “Our spin on a classic pasta dish.” Maybe a Pasta Primavera and our spin on it. That is cooking. You can change the bread of a clubhouse sandwich and still have a clubhouse sandwich.
Errors in Baking
Baking, leave out an ingredient or change one. Switch salt for sugar, they look the same but you don’t get the result you want. Everything is changing. So, life is not baking it’s about cooking it’s about being flexible. Can you change the ingredients can you change the cooking time if you want? Are you flexible enough? If you’re baking you’re not, you’re setting yourself up for rigidity and disappointment. Choose cooking to be flexible and enjoy that meal your cooking.
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KRIS WILDER
Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.
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