Victim times three. The title sounds like rejection or oddly an acceptance of what is happening, but in a strange and odd way. “This is not happening,” or I am a victim of a certain circumstance is not an attractive look.
Business Destroyed
Recently my karate dojo got flooded. The dojo was destroyed. The unit is going to be stripped to the walls. And finding contractors in this environment is difficult. I’m not teaching in my dojo, not for some time.
Upset when I got the call? No, not at all. It’s not what happened to me, it is life and life always is happening. Life does what it does, pipes fail in this instance. Other things have happened to you I’m sure. Some of those things, well you can measure smaller and some I’m sure you could measure much larger. In seeing life happening and not happening to us we take away the victimhood.
Victimhood Is Not Honorable
Victimhood is popular but it’s weak, it is not virtuous and it is narcissistic. Let me say that again. Victimhood is weak, it lacks virtue and it is narcissistic. It’s weak because it has a ceiling, it only goes so far, and then it limits out. It reaches the top and it doesn’t allow the true potential that a person possesses to rise to blossom to bloom.
Victimhood, it lacks a virtue is not good, that lack of virtue is a result of poor standards personal and public. You see there incomplete. Thirdly victimhood is narcissistic and it’s the weakest form of narcissism. It doesn’t define you by your good looks or your status. Victimhood defines you by your self identified incompleteness. It says that only something other than yourself can repair you. A victim is in denial of who they should be.
The Taste Is Bitter
As for the flood of the dojo? Did I want to be upset when I got the phone call? Yes, I wanted to for about one hot second, then I saw it as victimhood and I spat it out, the taste is bitter. It was a good day, a win, and I trust you will find those wins in your life. Where you’re able to say, “That victimhood, no that’s not happening,” because life is not happening to us, it’s happening.
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KRIS WILDER
Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.
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