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Be Yourself Is Bad Lazy Advice

Be yourself is bad lazy advice. You know that question that you layout for people, “What should I do?” You know when you’re looking at possibly a date or a job interview or important moment. “What should I do?” You are seeking information. You are seeking counsel. “How can I make this moment better?”

Just Be Yourself

The question of what should I do without exception comes back with, “Just be yourself.” It comes from someone and it comes from somewhere but it always comes. In saying that here is what they mean. They are saying that they are lazy. Be yourself is not a thoughtful answer. It’s weak it is misguided and you will do poorly if you heed that bad lazy advice. See, you should be better than yourself. You should be what you want to be.

You should seek that ascendant self. Seek that higher self. The self that is more responsible to those around them and unto themselves. We are a cluster of emotions. A ball desires and a bucket of needs, that are upon examination rather ugly.

Take It Into Consideration

Pause for a moment. If you acted the way you want to act would you want to be around yourself? That’s an honest question. If you acted the way you wanted would you want to be around yourself?  The answer is, “No.” The next time you get the lazy misguided answer of, “Just be yourself,” know that that person who gave you that advice is lazy or not qualified to give you advice. You should politely leave their company at least on this issue.

We will become better by not being ourselves. That sounds strange but think about it for a moment. We only become better, not being ourselves. Then we ingrain that higher behavior into ourselves until it becomes 1st nature. That’s a process that should never end.

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Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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Secret Societies Don’t Care About You

Secret societies don’t care about you. A fun little observation and it is that The Secret teachings of the Illuminati, the Rosicrucian’s, the Mason, Skull and Bones, the Trilateral Commission, generally the occult mysticism. And from the Mike Myers movie So I Married an Axe Murder, The Pentaverant, with Colonel Sanders before he died.

Secret teachings of these groups fall into three categories, the reasons for their secrecy. When the teaching is experiencing banning by the orthodoxy. That the teaching is not compatible with societies in a general way. And so now you can’t do that, so they go underground.

The other one is the teaching is easy to dismiss in other words it’s a bunch of hokum and it doesn’t equate, add or make life better.

The 3rd one and the most common of all is that most people just don’t care.

Secret Societies Don’t Care About You

Most people don’t care about the secrets of these groups. they can be all sorts of different ideas, go back to the names listed at the beginning and you can see the first bunch of ideology there and when people do take an interest it is often for the salacious, the weird, the strange, and obscure all those kinds of good things.

I like it to it’s fun it’s entertaining but the fact of the matter is that the lack of interest that most people have about these kinds of things. well, encounter works both ways on the equation.

People want to just go about their day and do the things the baby to do without bothering the other side without bothering the Illuminati were just gonna go about our business in the Illuminati is trying to go about their business Without bothering people of course unless you take the position that they are.

It’s Entertaining

Then we go back to that salacious sort of fun aspect of these groups. See the secrets are there, sure most of the time, but people are busy and focused on their own lives and problems.

If you don’t believe me go ask an acquaintance for assistance with an issue that you face. You know an issue that takes some effort. You will find out they are just not that interested in what’s going on in your world or how they can help. Secret societies and folks on what’s important in their day-to-day lives.

Yeah, two examples of a Gee whiz observation just for fun, and I hope you are grinning as you find the idea of people being disinterested in secret societies and your life are about the same and a fun observation.

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Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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The Unique and Special Formula

Kris Wilder

The unique and special formula. A conversation with a friend regarding the Google Algorithm turned into an observation. The levels of interest and focus you freely give to the almighty Google prove you are not that special.  

We are all special except we are not. Amazon knows when you are ready to buy a replacement for the product you use. And YouTube, knows what we like. It’s the key to their survival as a business.

The Unique and Special Formula reads this way. If you can be replaced, you are not special. The longer it takes to replace you the more special you can be.  

Here is a subset of that formula, how long does it take to replace anything withing your view?  Pretty fast is the answer. We think we are unique. We think the things that moves us are special and the items that move us are profound and unusual.

How to identify the Unique and Special Formula and then use it to shape your world is not as difficult as you may think.  The results can be disturbing and also bring clarity.

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Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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Promising You an Easy Life

Kris Wilder

Promising You an Easy Life. An easy life is something we desire, who doesn’t want that?

And it is the kind of life that results in an unedited, soft life. I would argue a trivial life. We can’t escape the trauma the hardship of this life it is in the nature of our existence, it is inescapable.

Pain is Not Welcome

It’s not welcomed and it often is horrific in many ways but it is. We seek a painless life it’s our nature to avoid pain. A simple proof is when we touch a hot stove, we only do it once.

Every great religion, every great philosophy, every great myth, every great legend, every great parable contains the negative element. I wish I could wave a magic wand and make all the bad go away. Who wouldn’t want that for their child their wife their partner their spouse or anybody else that they cared about?

But I nor anybody else on the face of the Earth has the power to do so not in the long run. In the short run, we can put bandages on it. We can do surgery; we can do the things that kind of patch over or in some instances even solve the problem, but there’s always another one coming.

The Little Dutch Boy and Sisyphus

We’re like the little Dutch boy from the story, running around from dike to dike putting his fingers in the next leak.

The Secret to this is to put your feet underneath you, to stand tall. Do what needs to be done and do it to the best of your ability. If you do it wrong if you get knocked down get your footing reset. When you get a win celebrate. If it goes your way acknowledge it, and if you do a job well-done sit in for a little while and enjoy. When you get a break, something happens that is unexpected and this wonderful. Go ahead take a moment to be grateful. Enjoy because there is no promising you an easy life.

Celebrate Your Victories

It isn’t an easy life but then you knew that. Now what you need to do is go out and enjoy it. Did I just say that you’re supposed to enjoy pain? No, I didn’t say that. Am I saying you are supposed to enjoy your victories and your celebrations? Absolutely.

All of these require you to have your feet underneath you. To stand tall and do what needs to be done. All the while knowing that in some instances it will not be sufficient and in other ways, you will fail and fail big. But you do your best.

You do it to the best of your ability and you acknowledge that you’ve done so and move on. This is why we don’t have an easy life. It was never promised to us and as the classic song from the 70 says, “I never promised you a rose garden.”

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KRIS WILDER

Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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Craters of Improvement

Kris Wilder

Craters of Improvement. We seek like-minded people. It feels good to get validating and to share similar ideas. We develop a tribe of sorts. But not a false tribe. As an example, your co-workers are a forced tribe.

Your co-workers are constructed of people who meet the business needs and not yours. That is what business does. This is not malevolent it is ambivalent to those needs other than the goal of the business. You are set in a situation that is not of your own – although you likely actively sought the job.

Your Neighbors, Your Choices

There is an upside to not choosing your neighbors or your coworkers. You are getting the diversification of thought and a broadening of experience.


People, when given the choice, will choose to associate with people of similar demeanor and desires. As a relative said to me one day, “It’s good to go visit the home town, you don’t need to prove anything to anybody, they know who you are.”


This comb nation of forced selection, as in work, and the choices made in community and friends can catalyze a larger experience.

The Two Big Groupings


Think of it this way. Events can be broken into two large groups, the things that happen to you and things that you choose. The way you handle the impact can define the crater of that impact. Or to extend this line of thought. Instead of a meteorite and a crater, a space capsule landing via parachute with the results of experiments. Craters of Improvement.


Change is inevitable. We cannot escape the craters of life. We can adjust, and sometimes learn from the information we get in a soft touchdown of a capsule. But the change is coming.


Choices when the can be made, yes, do that. You have to flow understanding change is not always about big breakthroughs. Simple choices often have the longest results.

The message is what tribe have you chosen; does that tribe you have chosen provide what you desire? What do you need? Or is it detrimental to the person you need to be? Does your artificially constructed work environment serve more than the purpose of providing food for your cakehole? Can it uplift!

These are questions that lead to an active choice life and not a “Life is happening to me.” Is the incoming, the impending experience, your choice, and will it be a capsule of information or a crater.

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KRIS WILDER

Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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I’ll Give My Energy to This

I’ll give my energy to this. The old saying, “You get what you focus on.” That’s about thoughts, will, and intention manifesting into action. It’s true. It’s as true as the changing seasons the choice of where you put that energy is the way of your flow. It’s the way that you go.

The more you focus on something the more it’s going to manifest. It may be slight; it may be large but it will be there. The more you think about the more you ponder upon, the more you contemplate the more it will show itself.

The Choice is a Goal

The Choice is a goal. When you decide to place energy into a multi-nodal thought and action, it contacts many other parts of your life. Those parts of your life enjoy the vision, the focus the energy that you give it.

Some popular phrases people use to give their energy up are, “Some things never change,” that’s fatalism. That’s a what are you going do? Here’s another, “The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.” That’s the Pareto Distribution. Neither is absolute but you see that mental concrete in which you’re writing. This idea, I’ll give my energy to this. It’s about your focus you’re setting that mental concrete.

What part of your life do you leave unattended so anybody could come along and write the idea in that concrete? Are you attending to that idea, are you cleaning, sweeping, making sure that nobody trips over it?

The Destination of The Sidewalk

A sidewalk has a destination. What are you giving your energy to? Have you paused to see what truisms or even what is true?

What has been placed inside the concrete of your mind? How did the idea become part of your makeup? That’s not an easy task. That’s not an easy audit but it’s a question worth asking.

Then deciding if the idea deserves my energy is it worthy of my time, my focus, my energy? It’s my choice it is not something that somebody came along and wrote into the sidewalk of my life.

I make active choices on where I choose to spend my energy, where I choose to make things happen the way that I want. To give that focus of my energy. It’s where I give my energy. It’s where I decide. It’s where you should decide your energy is going to be given.

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KRIS WILDER

Kris Wilder is a martial artist based in Seattle Washington. He has authored many martial art books, including the classic, The Way of Kata. Making no apologies for his obsession of Football he can be found telling any who will listen about the nuances of the Canadian Football League.

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